It’s not for the commercial cards or the presents, although they’re awesome. It’s not for the roses restaurants like to give out to their female customers. It’s not for any other reason than the fact that I was blessed with the ability to conceive, carry, and bring forth two wonderful children that I LOVE MOTHER’S DAY. And so, every Mother’s Day, I am filled with emotion as I reflect on my girls- how they came to be and the stages they are at now. Yes, I do it on their birthdays, as well. But this day is a day for me to focus on all aspects of motherhood- the pride, the joy, the frustrations, the love.
I know all too well, though, how painful a time Mother’s Day will be for many women, who for a myriad of reasons cannot conceive or adopt children of their own. But I submit this to you for your consideration. As hard as this reason may be to hear, I am convinced that they are mothers to so many MORE. Their love, care, and attention to the needs of others must be placed somewhere or they’ll explode. I submit that the people around these fabulous women are graced by these bountiful gifts. Rather than being showered over biological or adopted children, these women share themselves with the world.
How did I come up with this supposition? I have family and friends who are in this very position, and I can say wholeheartedly that they are mothers of the world. Their loving kindness and influence are spread far and wide and across many years. So, on Mother’s Day, rather than feel uncomfortable around women who cannot have children, I choose to celebrate them and thank them for being a role model, a surrogate for many who don’t have a woman in their lives that they can call mother.
Having a child, to me, doesn’t qualify a woman as a MOTHER necessarily. In my eyes, it’s certain qualities that define a mother’s nature :
You see, these qualities can be shown no matter how many kids’ rooms you may have in your home. So, to the women in my life and in yours, who can’t have children, I’d like us to say, “Happy Mother’s Day, for being like a mom to so many people.”
Happy Mother’s Day!